Happy Song Sunday! Today we have a song from the hilarious Tim Minchin titled “If I Didn’t Have You.”

Alright, now that we’ve had our chuckle, I need to vent.


You may have heard the argument before. It goes something like this: “It’s not so crazy to believe in God, you make the same leap when you decide to enter a serious relationship with someone. In each case you have to just trust in them and take a leap of faith.”


I’m sorry, but I cannot believe that I actually still hear this argument being made. I know it couldn’t get past any nonbeliever, so the people who use it must be folks who have never had their beliefs challenged in the slightest, who have never even talked to an atheist. These people must think they have a secret weapon — I mean hey, who can argue against love?

Luckily, we don’t have to. It may be difficult to argue against at first because it is so mind-numbing of a claim, but after thinking for a few seconds the flaws in the argument become abundantly clear.

Let us compare faith in God with “faith” in a loved one. When you meet someone, you are initially attracted or you aren’t. If you are, you might want to get to know the person better. You can talk to the person, see if your interests line up. Perhaps you’ll go out on a date or two, and see how your “chemistry” is together. If all goes well, perhaps things will eventually get more serious. By the time you tie the knot, you know so much about the person, whether you’re a good fit for each other, and if you can trust them. To quote from the song:

“And if I may conjecture a further objection love is nothing to do with destined perfection. The connection is strengthened the affection simply grows over time. … And love is made more powerful by the ongoing drama of shared experience and synergy and symbiotic empathy or something…”

There’s no leap of faith that has to be taken. Sure, when we’re in the heat of the moment, we don’t take out a pencil and paper and write down the pros and cons of entering a relationship with the person, but we aren’t just randomly choosing a person from a crowd to let into our homes and raid our fridge, either.

Compare this with faith in God. Can we see God? No. Can we ask God questions? No. Is there some evidence that makes it very clear that God even exists? Sorry, no.

This is so very unlike love. It is almost ludicrous to claim that believing that something you will not be sure of until “after you’re dead” is anything like furthering a relationship with a living, breathing, real person.

Inanity aside, it is understandable that they would want to make this argument, and continue to use it even though it sucks so bad. Think about how embarrassing faith must be. To know that you have no evidence, no reason behind your beliefs, and that you just believe because you want to, because it makes you feel better.

What they want to do, knowing they could never win an actual argument, is change the rules. They want to make everyone out to be crazy. They want to lower us to their level. Then faith becomes okay. It becomes normal. If everyone has faith in something then they are perfectly justified in their beliefs, no matter how crazy and unsupported.

That’s what they want. Too bad they’ll never get it.

~peace, RR

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